“Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” -Dr. Suess
We all know Dr. Suess is right, we just don’t necessarily act on this knowing, especially when in the midst of wedding planning. And while beautiful wedding day photos and a professionally edited video are wonderful to look back on too, they do not re-connect us emotionally in the same way as a personal message tucked inside a wedding day time capsule does.
I’ve collected a few ideas to help you incorporate some type of time capsule into your wedding day. Confession, we did not do this on our wedding day – not because we decided against it, but because we were not aware of it. [And I absolutely am sufficiently cornball/romantic to have included this.] So heads-up, David. I am thinking of including some version of this into our lives now – almost 2 years post wedding day.
There are two ways couples usually incorporate the time capsule idea into their wedding day: “Day of” ceremony time capsule or a Guestbook time capsule.
“Day of” Time Capsule
Supplies: A box & paper.
Really, the supplies required do not create too high a bar, even for those of us who are DIY-averse or flat-out-of-time. We have some options on Taylor Street for boxes & stationery that will not only add symbolic significance to the occasion, but also create a true wedding day keepsake. A shoebox with blank paper or note cards, however, will do just fine.
Boxes: Both of these keepsake boxes could first be used for your wedding reception, so they would not only be pulling double duty, they would have the added significance of having been a part of your wedding day itself.
Paper: There are many awesome stationery alternatives available for you to consider. We have a few for that would work well, like these:
The directions are straightforward. You each write a love letter to your soon-to-be spouse, expressing your feelings on this day — your wedding day — what you are most excited about, your hopes, what is most important to you about this day, and why & when you fell in love with him/her. You know, the emotional kind of “stuff”.
[And this idea is really awesome for a blended family ceremony – including your children in on the time capsule by adding their own notes makes it even more memorable. And, it creates a potential family tradition with the opening of the time capsule and its periodic updating.]
Guestbook time capsule
This version has you asking guests to write you a note on a postcard you provide and drop it in your “time capsule” to be opened on your 1st anniversary. This invites your guests to participate in a way that a guest book signature does not. Here are a couple of ideas for collecting your postcards.
Kick it up a notch: So a year has passed and you’ve opened up your time capsule on your one year anniversary. You’ve read your letters over a glass of wine and eaten what remains of your wedding cake. So now what?! Here are a few ideas for what to add for “the next time” — regardless of what time capsule option you decided on — for your 5 year anniversary, 10 year, … or whatever year you agree to re-open it.
- Take a picture of the two of you with the time capsule the day you open it up & include it for the next time;
- Include that day’s front page from your local paper or print-out from your favorite news source;
- Write about:
- The hardest moments you faced as a couple your first year;
- Your favorite memory of year one;
- A goal or prediction for the next time you open your time capsule;
- Write another personal note to each other.
You get the idea, there are lots of things you could include. Just don’t make this list so long that it gets tedious.
Close it up, store it somewhere safe. Done.
This may become a ritual that you continue the rest of your lives or it may be something you enjoy once and set aside. Regardless, your notes to each other or notes from your friends & family will become something you will be able to look back on, reflect & reminisce when you do happen upon it – especially after it has gathered dust for years. Your children may also enjoy the opportunity to glimpse a bit more about you as well, in your own writing and in your own words … “when you were young”.
Life goes by pretty fast and if you are like me, unless we force some pauses along the way to reflect and reconnect, we miss some awesome & inspiring moments, unique opportunities to really connect with each other.
Your time capsule may help you both re-connect, to a younger you and to each other. Sweet.