There are way too many party favors. [We feel your pain every day]. Determining good value for the money is difficult, and even some of the better known industry names have wide variances in the quality of their products (we will not mention names). And while some couples choose to go DIY, skill levels vary (!) and not everyone has the time or desire.
If you don’t want to make your wedding favors, we at Taylor Street want you know it is absolutely possible for you to purchase interesting or fun, well made, wedding favors.
Here are 3 tips to help make your favor selection process a success.
Tip #1: Ask yourself the right question
Don’t start your favor search with the question: What gift would my guests be so impressed with / like enough to want to take home?
The mindset behind this question — that you must thrill your guests — is guaranteed to frustrate your efforts because:
1. you will never please everyone, and
2. you are allowing your decision to be dictated by guest preferences you can not influence and can not possibly guess correctly.
Better question: What small gift/memento would I enjoy giving to my guests — a gift to thank them for coming that might remind them of my wedding day or make them laugh, and that I can afford — without stressing me/us out more than we already are?
Or turn it around — what small gift would I enjoy receiving if I were attending my own wedding?
Tip #2: Incorporate your Theme…
Since most guest favors are placed on individual tables or displayed on a reception table, incorporating your theme into the favor can help you narrow your focus. One of the simplest, and often more successful, ways to to do this is with color, and/or texture. Every wedding or celebration has one or a few predominant recurring colors or textures. Use something you’ve already decided on as your inspiration, and you will have streamlined your decision making process.
Tip #3: …But don’t replicate your entire theme.
Take elements from your theme and deconstruct them. Do not recreate your entire event theme in miniature with your favor, but rather, take just one part of it. If your wedding reception theme is the Great Gatsby roaring twenties – repeat a deco print or black and gold color combination with your favor or tag.
…and a warning about Pinterest. It is invaluable, but it can overwhelm — too many ideas will have you second guessing yourself in no time. Your objective is not to make your gift or favor “pin” worthy. When you go to Pinterest – and you know you will – first set a goal and a time limit. Get in, get out.
Your favor lets your guests know how much you appreciate them making time to celebrate with you. It does not have to be a lasting souvenir, and it does not have to be handmade to be appreciated. Keep it sincere, affordable – and have some fun.
David and I do not believe that you need to have any particular thing / ritual / color or song for your wedding. We do believe that whatever you do decide to include and however you decide to express yourselves through your wedding and reception, you ought to be able to do it with class, with style, with confidence and within budget! Your wedding day ought to be FUN! Everyone you hire should be focused on making your wedding day uniquely yours & the best day it can be.
I get upset when I come across wedding industry pros who willingly take advantage of a newly engaged couple’s lack of experience in planning a wedding to push their own agenda. A recent article written for a well-known publication provided wedding style comments from various wedding professionals, dismissing some wedding trends and elevating others. It pushed me to think about how we each can identify & hire passionate, competent, and trustworthy wedding pros. And in the spirit of the article that drove my motivation to write this, I’ve used their same “what’s out” and “what’s in” approach.
What’s OUT: Wedding professionals who sermonize about “tired” trends — to be swept away with last year’s brides and grooms — in order to make way for a fresh crop of this year’s recruits who arrive flush with cash. These pros take advantage of a couple’s inexperience and some insecurity, and sell “the latest trends” because “on-trend” drives compliments and new business – for them.
What’s IN: Wedding professionals who listen to their clients, provide guidance and advice without preaching, and believe that earning their client’s trust by putting the couple’s interest & vision first is their priority. These pros are both confident and modest.
What does “a trending wedding professional” look like in practice? Here’s my list of the top 10 characteristics in trending wedding pros you absolutely will love working with…
TOP 10 Wedding Pro Characteristics
10. Pros are careful to not take more clients than they can serve confidently, providing their highest level of service to every couple;
9. Pros NEVER assume they know “what is best” for a particular couple – they listen more than they talk;
8. Pros treat all couples, gay and straight, with equal respect — and back up“their talk” with gender neutral sales materials and contracts;
7. Pros do not gossip;
6. Pros are happy to share their success;
5. Pros never allow anyone to feel as though they just asked a stupid question;
4. Pros have no fear of having you shop around;
3. Pros sometimes say no, knowing that they are not the best fit for every couple;
2. Pros admit that sometimes they don’t have all the answers, but will always go find the answer if they don’t know. Eagerness to continue learning is key;
1. Pros still have A BLAST doing what they are doing – and it shows.
That’s how you’ll spot a real wedding professional.